Work & Kid Balance

Dear Doc

I have three kids under 15 and I rarely see them in the week as they are in bed when I leave and when I get home. Then when I do get home, I am often distracted and thinking about work.

It takes up so much space in my brain having to be across marketing, sales, finances, staff and clients.

But what will happen? Are we not giving our children enough time? Will we have teenagers with social problems? How does everyone else cope?

Answer:

“Do not brood over your past mistakes and failures, as this will only fill your mind with grief, regret and depression. Do not repeat them in the future”. Swami Sivananda Indian Yoga master

It is easy to be inundated by day-to-day demands and lose sight of your important objectives. To be able to make choices, you will need to have clear, short-term and long-term goals. Spend some time at the beginning of each week or month, evaluating and revising these goals. What do you want to accomplish this year? This month? This week? Successful time management involves making decisions based on an understanding of your goals, which may include time with your family.

Most time-management programs stress the importance of prioritising your objectives. Make a ‘to do’ list and classify everything on it. In light of your goals and other commitments, consciously decide whether each item is a ‘must do’, a ‘should do’, or simply ‘not that important’.

Learn to Say ‘No!’ This is by far the most important single thing that you can do. You will be asked to do many worthwhile things by colleagues and friends. You cannot possibly do them all. Know your limitations.

You will have to say no and you will have to say it often. The key is selectivity. Evaluate each request in terms of your goals. Ask yourself, is this task going to have a significant impact on reaching my goals? Is it worth doing? Do I have the time to do it well? Am I going to enjoy doing it? If you cannot answer yes to all these questions, you probably should not be doing it.

If you include time with your family in your list of important goals, then you will have to say no to activities that would prevent you spending time with your children. Remember one very important fact; it will not be long before they no longer have time to spend with you!


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